What Is it like to be in An Interracial Marriage?

Getting into an interracial relationship and taking it to marriage is certainly not every person’s cup of tea. Moreover, if your relationship revolves around Black and White individuals, the complexity approaches a whole new level. As a matter of fact, relationships between the black and white Americans haven’t been great in the past. This is why the families of individuals looking to date a person from another race are always skeptical.

Nevertheless, people that did get into a relationship with a person from another have thoroughly enjoyed the experience and want everyone to try it out. Here is what it is like to be in an Interracial Relationship:

  • People tend to pass comments on your future babies: People would tell that mixed babies are cute. This isn’t an insulting comment but the underlying thought says that your babies are adorable only because they’re mixed. Mixed babies are undoubtedly adorable but so are babies that belong to a specific race.
  • The learning curve is steep: When you’re dating a person from another race, you get access to a perspective of the world that you’ve never had access to earlier. And, which you certainly cannot understand life from another person’s perspective, you can try to understand their opinions and the way they look at things. Furthermore, you’d also get to know about your partner’s culture, traditions, food and festivals. 
  • Strangers might sometimes get offensive: Although people have begun to accept interracial relationships, there are still many people that might pass a rude comment in the subway or at the local bar. There have been isolated cases where people have physically abused a person because he / she were dating a person from their race. While the number of hate crimes has declined over the last 10 years, they still do exist. 
  • It is nothing different from any other relationship: Your relationship with a person belonging to another race wouldn’t be very different than a relationship with a person of the same race. Experts believe that dating someone from outside your race makes the relationship more happening and there is always something new coming your way. On the other hand, dating a person of the same race as you is more likely to make things monotonous and there isn’t a lot of scope to spice up things. 

Although a lot of people in the United States, Canada and the United Kingdom have propagated the message of Interracial Dating, we’d like to make it clear that it isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. If you’re looking to try something out of the box, it wouldn’t be a bad idea to join a dating site such as InterracialMatch.com and get the ball rolling.

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5 Reasons Why Interracial Dating is Awesome

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I didn’t realize that I was in an Interracial Relationship until someone told me. And that someone was my girlfriend. We were dating for a couple of weeks, and our native languages were different. We were born in different countries and we have been exposed to different cultures. But I didn’t really think our races seemed to be worthy of mention until the entire world together with my girlfriend decided to get interested in how our (non-existent) children would look like. And now that I think about it, despite its flaws, interracial dating is pretty awesome.

1. Beautiful Kids

All kids are beautiful, but somehow there is an added expectation that mixed kids are more beautiful. This may be completely untrue but it’s nice to know that if you ever decide to have kids, they will be created from a larger and more diverse genetic pool. It is also scientifically proven that the further you are racially, the lower chances of genetic complications.

2. Learn a New Language

OK maybe not fully learn but at least pick up a few romantic phrases and some swear words from each other. My girlfriend is better at picking up my mother tongue than I am, and sometime when I speak to my grandparents she knows what’s going on. And it’s incredibly cute when she tries to use some of the words on me although her pronunciation sucks. I only know about 2 phrases and 5 words, and 3 of them are inappropriate for public use.

3. Food

If there is a huge perk of dating someone outside your race, it is the food you get to enjoy. You don’t only get to eat amazing native dishes; you also get a personal commentary of each dish’s history and its role in your partner’s culture. And if both your parents are aware of your relationship, it makes it even easier for you guys to go over to each other’s houses and enjoy an array of Amazing food, lovingly cooked by the mothers. And if you are lucky, even the specialties of the grandmothers.

4. Challenge Stereotypes

While stereotypes may be true, they are nasty little blinding forces that hinder you from getting to know people more authentically.  When you love someone different from yourself, you expose yourself to diversity and realize that it’s OK for people to be different. You don’t foolishly say things like “He’s a (insert race), that’s why he’s like that.”

5. Grow Stronger

Every relationship has its problems but somehow an interracial relationship seem to have more because of the possibilities of disapproving family, friends or society. When both parties are mentally and emotionally strong to endure these problems, they find themselves growing closer and stronger as a couple with each passing day. After all, what’s life without a few bumps right? How can we appreciate something if it’s super easily attained or maintained?