For most people, finding that special someone to truly connect and share your life with is a very important goal. With the state of the world today, it seems that accomplishing this goal is harder than ever. Stereotypes and racial tensions aren’t what they used to be, so there is new found freedom to care for whomever you want regardless of race. That’s not to say that everything that comes with interracial dating is perfect. There are still those who view interracial dating as wrong and apply a stigma to these couples. These naysayers of dating outside ones race, as well as the society in general, need to learn certain facts to get a better understanding of why people choose to enter interracial relationships.
Born from the time of civil rights and slavery before that, the original negative feelings about interracial relationships centered around black and white couples. Because of the history of these two races in this country, members of both races strongly viewed the mixing of the two races as a bad thing. Many whites saw interracial relationships as a threat to the purity of their race, while members of the Afro-American race saw those who dated whites as people who hated themselves. These polarizing views among the masses have given way to more acceptance over the years.
As views have changed, the scope of interracial dating has evolved in focus from just black and white couples to interracial couples of all races. This change in scope allows a clearer picture of some facts about interracial relationships. Because the focus is now on all races and not just black and white, it should be clearer to society as a whole that those who enter into interracial relationships are not somehow trying to atone for the wrongs of the past. The motivating factor for entering into these relationships is not to somehow heal the wounds of society.
Though their motivations are not to heal society, those who enter into interracial relationships gain a better perspective of society. Different races have different cultures and ways of seeing the world. Because of this, the chances for conflict are high. It is not to say that one culture or vision of the world is better than another, but for two people to establish a synthesis of their backgrounds as they grow their relationship, an openness to learning and accepting others is necessary. Members of interracial relationships typically have a more positive outlook on society as a whole and other races in particular. They see interactions with other races as an opportunity to learn versus uncalled for conflict.
Another aspect of interracial relationships that people should realize is that these relationships are not just about sex. Yes, there may indeed be a sexual fascination about members of another race. The unknown can provide a powerful attraction when coupled with sexual stereotypes placed on one race or another. Humans, by nature, are explorers. There is such a blend of cultures today that members of all races are exposed to one another. Because of this, the chance for one to venture outside the confines of what they know and explore the mysteries of other races has never been easier. This sexual fascination, however, is not enough to solidify a relationship. It is simply the doorway to something potentially greater.
The most important thing that people should realize about interracial relationships is that they are like same race relationships. They are not about making a social statement or healing society’s wounds. They are not solely about sexual intrigue of another race or succumbing to the perceptions and views of others. Interracial relationships, like all good relationships, is about finding and connecting with that special someone who takes your breath away. It is about opening your heart and mind to the endless possibilities that could result in finding someone to love. Those who are a part of interracial relationships realize how much less the world would be had they limited their options by race.
More and more people are coming to learn and accept that love can come in many forms and colors and they reject closing themselves off to these possibilities. In 2017, this can be seen in all aspects of society. Hollywood couples, such as, Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes, Christy Tiegen and John Legend, and Kanya West and Kim Kardasian West are interracial couples whose diverse components are never brought up or acknowledge. They are simply accepted by most as two people who have found each other. This is a good thing and how it should be. Even the Prince Harry and his significant other Meghan Markle have joined the ranks of celebrity interracial couples where race is not a negative factor or even considered by the public at large. The wheel of progress is indeed turning.
Regardless of how much progress has been made, some in society make a big deal about others dating outside their race. They force interracial couples to be aware of how they look. These couples know, however, that these awkward gazes are the hangups of others, and as such, are a small thing to deal with when compared to their happiness.